We all worry?
The homilies like ‘Don’t worry, be happy’ are great aspirations but don’t tell us how.
One simple tip is to laugh.
As ever, there is a knack to this but, put simply, just laugh! ‘Just laugh’ means to laugh intentionally. Do this, willingly, on each outbreath for at least 3 consecutive outbreaths. Follow this with another 3.
Various things follow from this:
1. you will immediately start to feel better because you are making a positive choice in your life.
2. you will start to oxygenate your system and so feel more energised
3. the endorphin effect means you will start to change the hormone levels in your blood from ‘stress’ to ‘relaxation’
The Dalai Lama said: “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”
I use this technique today. I woke in the morning and my brain started to go into worrydrive. After letting ideas & thoughts roll around for a bit too long, I realised I was entering my ‘worry’ zone. I had crossed the threshold between fixing the situation and worrying about ‘what if?’, so I started to laugh intentionally. I immediately started to feel better. I felt calmer and better able to prioritise my next steps. This also meant I felt more optimistic about my intended actions, approached them in better heart, and noticed subsequently that they were well focused and effective.
All this came about simply by ‘just laughing’ / laughing intentionally.
This technique is an easily learnable one and one of the simplest and fastest ways of reducing stress.
With more practice, it will even help you access your own joy.
So, breathe in, and as you breathe out, have good-natured chuckle.