‘How do I laugh more?’ is still one of the most common questions I am asked in coaching sessions.
This is the second in a series of 7 quick tips on how to use nls: natural laughter skills and laughter yoga for more laughter in your life.
Tip 2 – ‘Be authentic: give yourself permission to have a tantrum’
Seriousness is an exhausting burden. It is an affliction of the spirit. No one gets happy by being serious. It often induces stress, anxiety and even depression, and blights our happiness.
We adults often feel we have to be serious, but are we dying inside sometimes when we do this?
Are we being authentic?
Carl Jung talked about ‘making the darkness conscious’ and its role in liberating our consciousness. Isn’t childishness sometimes our ‘darkness’?
Where does laughter come in?
Giving ourselves permission to be childish and have a tantrum doesn’t mean this is how we’re going to live. It does mean that instead of suppressing it, we are prepared to and dare to express it.
In this context, permission itself is a healing act. Clients invariably become lighter in spirit, and every time this is accompanied by laughter.
Laughter yoga and nls: natural laughter skills practices help us dare to be childish. Their meditation-style practices and are generally best done alone and somewhere you can be noisy – as with many laughter practices.
Give yourself permission to have your tantrum. Start by feeling it and expressing it in your imagination or mind’s eye. See yourself doing it. Feel the feelings that arise – and at every juncture, be present and laugh – not in denial, but as a healing act.
Accept you feel this tantrum but don’t blame yourself. Take responsibility for it, stay present with it, honour it – and practice releasing it through your laughing practice.
Doing this accomplishes several things:
- You honour your all feelings and therefore become more authentic
- You strengthen your ability to laugh at yourself
- You become more emotionally flexible
- Your honesty & authenticity make you more inspirational, beautiful and attractive
- You become more mindful, relaxed and happier.
Besides using these laughter yoga and nls: natural laughter skills practices as a way of easing your way out of Jung-like ‘darkness’, you can also use these practices to help you access it in a healthy, balanced, robust way, as described in ‘Awakening the Laughing Buddha within’.
You smile and laugh more to allow your childishness to release itself, which therefore results in you smiling and laughing more.
This is a double-win. Your quality of life improves. You become happier.
‘The smiling practice technique you teach has transformed my life and I rarely walk around with a growly face these days. I am eternally thankful……for this.’ (Jon)
How do you release your childishness? I allow myself to consider sulking! Having allowed myself the luxury of considering this, I breathe deeply & consciously, let my attention drop until it reaches my joyfulness, feel its gentleness, and smile softly.
What about you?